Love is not usually well defined. People often think that they are in love, but they can�t explain it. There is a great dealing of confusion of the words love, and infatuation. Love may include romance, infatuation, affection and tenderness. But it could be love if one or more of the elements are not present. The definition of love varies from person to person. Love is essential element for all relationships. Much of what is written about love is either brief or mocking. Society in general is very cruel and heartless toward real love of any kind. Modern writing mocks marriages, husbands and wives, but condones adultery, and other obscene values. Real love is a mystery to most people. Most people never realize the true potential or value of love, nor do they learn to practice the art of love.
Most people fail to realize is that true love is not always accompanied by romance. Romance is different from love. Romance is the emotional part of love that adds the sparkle in your eyes. Sometimes people mistake romance for love. It may even become a substitute for love. You can say the love is from the heart and romance is skin deep. Romance requires things the love does not, like gifts, surprises, and huge amounts of attention. Romance sometimes demands things that are contradict love. Romance condemns love that is not pleasing to the eye.
People who demand to be loved before they allow themselves to love should not be surprised if no one gives them the love they are seeking because love is for the givers not the receivers. We have the power to love, but we cannot make others love us. We have a duty to love, but there are no guarantees that we will be loved. If you are truly a loving person, your entire mindset is in a giving mode. You concentrate on giving love, and not receiving love.
Love draws a person into an expression of caring and concern for another. An entirely selfish person cannot love. Anyone whose main concern is one�s self cannot clearly love. Love requires the giving of one�s self to another. Love is empathic. It puts itself in the other person shoes. Love seeks for understanding, and cares. Love does not pre-judge, point blame or jump to conclusion. Love is tender, kind and forgiving. Love is tuning into another�s sensitivities. Love sense�s another�s strengths and weaknesses, and uses the other person�s standards. Love suffers and rejoices on another�s terms. Love seeks understanding. It seeks to relate with another at their emotionally, intellectually, physically and spiritually levels. Love sacrifices, abandons things that hurt the one who is loved. Love will do without. Love will bend and stretch. Love must sometimes keep silent. It is the willingness to spend yourself for the well-being of another. Love will pay a debt the other cannot pay. It will bail them out...