Stress is any circumstance that threatens or is perceived to threaten one's well-being and that thereby taxes one's coping abilities. Many everyday events such as car trouble, waiting in line, bills you can't pay, or Christmas shopping can cause stress. Major and minor stresses are two different things but they can strongly be tied together. For example, someone who is going through a major stressful event like a terminal illness in the family can trigger minor stressful events such as funeral arrangements, the will, and other important decisions.
It is very often that events that are stressful for one person are not at all stressful for the next person. For instance, many people find it stressful to be on a cruise ship, yet others including the captain can not be taken away from the sea. A number of studies have shown that anxious, neurotic people report more stress than others (Watson, David, and Sulls, 1999). Therefore it id believed that stress lies in the mind of the beholder.
There are many various events that can cause stress from one person to another. There are four principal types of stress; frustration, conflict, change, and pressure. Frustration occurs in any situation in which the pursuit of some goal is thwarted, or let down. In this case, frustration can be the result of making a C on a paper you thought you would make an A on. Failures and losses are two types of common frustration that are significantly stressful. Many people who set unrealistically high goals for themselves end up frustrated. Frustration can also result from losing a dearly loved one. This could also lead to depression.
Conflict, the second type of major stress, occurs when two or more incompatible motivations or behavioral impulses compete for expression. Sigmund Freud proposed that internal conflicts generate considerable psychological stress. Conflicts come in three types; approach-approach, avoidance-avoidance, and approach-avoidance. In the approach-approach conflict a choice must be made between two attractive goals. For instance: You go out to a restaurant; do you get the fillet minion or the lobster tails? Amid the types of conflict this one is the least stressful. These conflicts classically have a happy ending. Being torn between two appealing subjects, the decision will most likely be stressful but you won't lose out.
In an avoidance-avoidance conflict a choice must be made between two unattractive goals. Suppose you have a ghastly cough. Should you take the Robitusson that makes you cringe at the thought of the taste, or should you...